Win Harper | Life and Leadership Coach

I Gave Myself An A For 2018

Dear Win,

In 2018, I started writing my memoirs.  I used old pictures and memorabilia to write an article a week, and in 2019 I will put them together for my book.

I got a subscription to and renewed my genealogy work

My golf partner, Rich Warren, and I once again won our league championship.  I am especially proud of this achievement because no team had ever won back-to-back championships before!  I also continued to maintain my physical fitness by going to Anytime Fitness 2 times a week all year long.  I kept my weight at 175, and I had energy and felt strong.

I continued my singing and hosted a concert in my home in the summer.  I also recorded an album in October.  My singing gave me a creative outlet, and built my confidence.

In January, I visited with some Marine Officers I had gone through Artillery Training with in 1967.  I had not seen them in over 50 years!  The experience was healing for me.  I have always had mixed feelings about my Vietnam Experience, and renewing my friendships with those who were there with me, and listening to their stories helped me to realize that I am not alone.

In May, I made a presentation about Vietnam to the Small Museum Historical Group.  This was another healing experience for me.  In describing to those who had never served in the military and to those military veterans who did not serve in Vietnam what it meant to those of us who did serve was therapeutic.  The preparation for the class gave me the opportunity to reflect upon my own experience in Vietnam and what it meant to me.

I was not President of the Middlesex Heritage Group, but I was an active Board Member and volunteer.  I got another Grant from the Greater Hudson Heritage Network to refurbish “The Old Brick” schoolhouse painting, I got a Historical Marker for the Robeson Store from the Pomeroy Foundation, I set up a committee for the Middlesex Rails to Trails Project, and was on the committees for the Memorial Day Parade and the Citizens Appreciation Day.

I was the Grand Marshall and Keynote Speaker at the New Castle, PA Veterans Day Parade.

Elizabeth and I visited friends and family in California, England, New Jersey, North Carolina, Massachusetts and Montana.  She started playing golf in 2018, and we had a great time together on courses in the area. 

In 2018, I became more comfortable with my talents and abilities, and shared them with friends, family, and community.

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Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 12/11/17 at 08:26 AM

How I Earned My A In 2017

2017 was another good year for me. I set my intentions for 2017 by giving myself an A for the year in December 2016, and here is how I really earned it.

Jan-April I took a poetry writing class at the Finger Lakes Community College.  Writing is a meditation for me, and I love the introspection and exploration of a structured class.  I allowed myself to be vulnerable and authentic.

Speaking of vulnerability, I sang a lot during 2017.  In June, I held a concert at our house for 20 friends and sang 9 songs.  I also sang at an outdoor concert in Vine Valley and at a plaque dedication in Middlesex.  I felt my vulnerability most at the last event.  I did not sing well that day, and my confidence was shaken.  At that low point, I thought about quitting singing.  I knew, however, that singing brought me joy, and I remembered this quote: “Do we sing because we are happy, or are we happy because we sing?”  I chose to continue taking lessons and performing.

My golf partner, Rich Warren, and I won the Wednesday Night Men’s’ League Championship at the Bristol Harbour Golf Course.  It was our second Championship in 5 years.

In September, I was the keynote speaker at the Canandaigua Elementary School’s “Take A Veteran To School Day,” and there was an article in the local paper about the event.  The headline was, “Vietnam Vet Shows Off His Superman Socks to Canandaigua Kids.”

Elizabeth and I went to Anytime Fitness on a regular basis except for the summer.  I ended the year weighing under 180, and feeling physical strong and energized.

This was my last year as President of the Middlesex Heritage Group and it was a great success.  We increased our FaceBook likes to over 500, obtained a Historical Marker for our Train Station from the Pomeroy Foundation, we hosted several events at our Schoolhouse, and our Seneca Heritage Day was a big success.  I wrote an article about the Train Plaque Dedication, and it appeared in the local newspaper.

For my work with the Middlesex Heritage Group, I received the Greater Hudson Heritage Network’s individual achievement award for Leadership and Community Engagement.  I was deeply honored by this recognition.

2017 had its ups and downs.  I didn’t accomplish all that I set out to do, and I didn’t always do as well as I wanted to do.  All year, however, I challenged myself and tried my best, and that felt good.  I learned that that is good enough.

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Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 12/11/17 at 08:22 AM

Give Yourself an A exercise for 2017

Here is an exercise I do every year. I have attached the reasons I earned my A in 2017, and I would love to see yours. I have also attached a reviewed of my A for 2016.

Exercise: Give Yourself An A. I want you to think about 2017 and what you want to do and achieve. Now, I want you to give yourself an A for the whole year. The A is based upon your effort and your accomplishments. Now I ask that you write me a letter telling me why you deserved an A. I want the letter to start with “Dear Win, I earned my A because…” and then describe in as much detail as possible, how you came to achieve this extraordinary grade.

Now go to this time next year, and look back, and write about all the insights you acquired, milestones you attained during the year as if these accomplishments were already in the past. Everything must be written in the past tense. Phrases such as, “I hope,” “I intend,” or “I will” must not appear. If you wish you may mention specific goals you reached, but I am more interested in the person you will have become by January 2018. I am interested in the attitude, feelings, and worldview of the person who will have done all he wished to do or become everything he wanted to be. And I want you to fall passionately in love with the person you are describing in the letter.

Remember, it isn’t always about reaching your goals…it’s about who you become as you try. Who do you want to be in 2017?
From: “The Art of Possibility”, by Ben Zander

Have fun with this exercise.

Love, Win

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Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 12/22/16 at 12:51 PM

How I Earned My A in 2016

I began 2016 with an un-cluttering of my life.  I purged and reorganized my paperwork, and streamlined my filing system.  This honored my value of simplicity.

I took a Creative Non-Fiction writing course at the Finger Lakes Community College, and wrote some very nice introspection pieces.  I made a choice not to listen to many teleseminars with the National Association of Memoir Writers.  This honored my value of authenticity.

I did not get into the physical shape I wanted to in 2016, and at the same time I am in better shape than I was last year.  I am currently doing 30 pushups a day.  My partner and I did win the second half of our golf league and came in second overall for the season.  This honored my value of fun.

I did make a recording of two songs in March.  The studio recording session was a great learning experience.  I also sang at several open mics and one time sang with a friend from Canada.  We met in the Marine Corps in 1973, and hadn’t seen each other in over 43 years.  This also honored my value of fun.

I taught and coached at Omega on two occasions.  I coached about 5 – 8 people per week throughout the year.  This honored my value of contribution.

I continued to volunteer at the Middlesex Heritage Group.  We got another grant, I digitized our cassette tapes, and we had the best Seneca Heritage Day ever.  I also established and managed the Town’s “Home Town Hero Banner” project and was a member of the Town’s Zoning Board of Appeals.  This honored my value of contribution.

I use this quote often:  “Every situation provides you the opportunity to demonstrate who you WANT to be.”  I earned my A by becoming more aware of who I am, and feeling free to be me.  This year’s studying, writing, teaching, volunteering, and coaching provided me interactions with a variety of others and through that I learned more about myself. 

While I did not achieve all that I set out to do, I am pleased with what I did and who I am becoming.

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Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 12/22/16 at 12:47 PM

Give Yourself an A for 2017

Dear Win, I earned my A in 2017 because I lived my life purpose and honored my values of Authenticity, Fun, Contribution, Simplicity, and Freedom.

Life Purpose:  I am the round table at which the community gathers to nourish itself.  I participated in life, and was open to being with and helping others.

Authenticity:  I started by taking a poetry class at the Finger Lakes Community College.  I learned how to choose and use words better, and therefore became a more effective communicator.  Through the introspection, study, and writing I learned more about myself. 

Fun:  I also deepened my understanding of myself through my voice.  I continued to take singing lessons.  I practiced daily and sang at open mics.  By summer I had found my voice, and my music.  I opened up and sang from my heart. 

Fun:  Elizabeth and I joined the “Anytime Fitness” and worked out on a regular basis.  I also worked on my golf game, and my partner and I once again won our league championship. 

Contribution:  I was re-elected president of the Middlesex Heritage Group and got more grants.  We had several events at the Schoolhouse, including two outdoor concerts.  I worked with a committee to get the Town Hall upstairs remodeled.  I also became a board member for the Friendship House in Middlesex.  And, I was a member of the Town’s Zoning Board of Appeals.

Contribution:  I volunteered at the Ontario-Yates County Literacy Program and the Veterans Administration Medical Center.

Simplicity:  I went through my photos, paperwork, clothes, and computer and eliminated and organized my life.

Freedom:  I smile when I look back and see all that I accomplished, and who I became, as I allowed myself to be in my fullness.

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Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 12/22/16 at 12:42 PM

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