Win Harper | Life and Leadership Coach

Admit! Commit! Permit!

In 2014, ADMIT that you know what you want!  I have been coaching for over 15 years, and the first question I always ask a client is, “What do you want?”  Most of the replies are some form of “I don’t know.”  I don’t believe that is true.  We are all naturally creative, resourceful, and whole.  We all KNOW what we want, and at the same time, many people are blocked from accessing that, or simply they are afraid to say it out loud. David Whyte ends one of his poems with this line, “Everything we need we had the moment before we were born.”  Admit that, and relearn what you have always known. Now sit quietly, set aside all your limiting beliefs, and tell your inner critic/gremlin/saboteur that you are busy.  When you are ready ask yourself, “What do I want?”, and listen for an answer.  That is what you want!!!!.


In 2014, COMMIT to what you want! 

“Whatever you can do,
or dream you can,
begin it.
Boldness has genius,
power and magic in it.”
Goethe

Once you commit to something the universe conspires to help you get it. Tell a friend, a coach, or a family member what you want, or simply write it in a journal and see what happens in the next 6 months.  Let Magic work for you.


In 2014, PERMIT yourself to have what you want!  There is nothing greedy or selfish in you getting what you want, and yet I talk to a lot of people who don’t believe they deserve what they ask for!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate;
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”
Marianne Williamson

Permit yourself to be “brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous.”  YOU ARE ALREADY!!


In 2014, let ADMIT, COMMIT, PERMIT be your mantra!

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Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 12/23/13 at 02:15 PM

Give Yourself an A in 2014

Here is an exercise I do every year.  I have attached the reasons I earned my A in 2014.  Feel fee to email me yours.  At the end of the year, I do a review of how I got my A.  My review of 2013 is in my last blog.


Exercise: Give Yourself an A. 

I want you to think about 2014 and what you want to do and achieve. I want you to give yourself an A for the whole year.  The A is based upon your effort and your accomplishments.  Now I ask that you write me a letter telling me why you deserved an A.  I want the letter to start with “Dear Win, I got my A because…” and then describe in as much detail as possible, how you came to achieve this extraordinary grade.  



Now close your eyes and go to this time next year, and look back, and write about all the insights you acquired, milestones you attained during the year as if these accomplishments were already in the past.  Everything must be written in the past tense. Phrases such as, “I hope,” “I intend,” or “I will” must not appear. If you wish you may mention specific goals you reached, but I am more interested in the person you will have become by January 2015.  I am interested in the attitude, feelings, and worldview of the person who will have done all he wished to do or become everything he wanted to be.  And I want you to fall passionately in love with the person you are describing in the letter. Remember, it isn’t about reaching your goals…it’s about who you become as you try.  Who do you want to be in 2014?



From: “The Art of Possibility”, by Ben Zander



Dear Win I earned my A in 2014 because I found my voice through my participation in and contribution to my communities, and my dedication to my singing.

I worked with Veterans at the Veterans Club at the local community college, at the VA Medical Center in Canandaigua, and at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York.  I spoke at the Rushville Memorial Day event and at the Finger Lake Community College’s Veterans Day Celebration.

I served on the Middlesex Zoning Appeals Board and was President of the Middlesex Heritage Group (MHG).  During the year the MHG erected three signs on local Historic Buildings, developed a 5-year plan for the implementation of suggestions from the two Conservation Assessment Program reports we received in 2013, and planted a time capsule to be opened in 2074 for the Bicentennial Celebration of the Overackers Corners School.  My Literacy Program Learner was assessed at three grades above where she started the year.

My coaching practice grew, and I taught at the Omega Institute for Holistic Studies, and other venues.

In January I began my yearlong celebration of my 70th birthday. I got my weight down to 180 pounds by March.  I did this by walking and watching what I ate.  In April I started stretching and doing exercises for the golf season, and once again my golf team won our league championship.  I also won another trophy at the EAGA golf tournament. I went to a 3-day silent retreat, hiked for a week on the Erie Canal Trail, and continued my singing lessons.  I practiced my scales daily and I was comfortable singing in public.

Elizabeth and I celebrated our 15th year together.  We met at Omega in 1999 and were married in 2002.

In 2014 I continued to contribute, learn and, grow, I lived a healthier life, and I became a better leader and a more compassionate person.  I enjoyed being me.

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Posted by .(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) on 12/17/13 at 02:51 PM

How I earned my A in 2013

I got my A in 2013 because I focused on my physical, mental, and spiritual development.

In April, I ran a 1 ½ miles in 12 ½ minutes, did 60 crunches in two minutes, and completed 3 pull ups.


In March I ran one mile in 12 minutes, shortly thereafter I pulled a muscle in my leg.  However, I have been working out on my treadmill, and doing yoga.  I am in better shape than I was at this time last year.  I may need to realize that I am not 18 anymore.


I also continued to improve my golf game, and I was able to play in the mid-80s.  My teams were league champions, and I won a trophy in the Associate Division of the Annual EAGA tournament.


My golf partner, Rich, and I won the Bristol Harbour Wednesday Night Men’s League Championship.  I kept my focus on that goal all summer, and my golf improved during the season.  I also earned a third place trophy in the annual EAGA tournament.  I learned once more about setting goals and working hard.


I took classes in water coloring and memoir writing.  In addition, I continued my singing lessons, and sang in public for the first time in my life.


I did not take the classes in water coloring and memoir writing.  I am not allowing myself that luxury right now.  I continued my singing lessons and sang at the annual Christmas gathering of our friends.  Singing is my creative release, and I am learning and relearning important life lessons in the process.  My teacher kept reminding to relax, to let go, and to be myself.  Those are lessons that I have learned, forgotten, and learned many times.  I want to remember that they are transferrable lessons from one area of my life to all the others.


I taught my class on Fulfillment at Omega, and several other venues.  In addition, I taught with Elizabeth at several locations. I continued my private coaching practice.


I taught at Omega, at a charity event in Portland, ME, and in Bermuda.  My coaching practice grew during the year. For my birthday Elizabeth got me a Super Win cape that I wore during my presentation in Maine: A bold step for me.


I volunteered at the Middlesex Heritage Group, the Veterans Administration Medical Center, and the Ontario/Yates County Literacy Program.  I finally got connected with the Veterans’ Club at the Finger Lakes Community College, and worked with young men and women who had recently been discharged from the military.


I have been nominated to be the President of the Middlesex Heritage Group Board for 2014.  I continue to volunteer at the VAMC and the Literacy Program.  I am now attending weekly Veteran’s Club meetings at the FLCC and have volunteered to be a speaker at the schools Veterans Day event next year.  I also contacted Omega about participating in their Veterans Week Program.


I was the guest speaker at several events including a local Memorial Day Parade.


I spoke at the Clifton Springs Memorial Day this year.


I reflected upon my life, looked for lessons learned, and discovered who I am.  I started my memoirs.  This process allowed me to heal some family and personal relationships. 


The reflection on my life is an on-going process.  Each year I learn a little bit more about myself, and the impact I have on others.  As I get to know who I am, I am more willing to accept leadership positions in my community.


In 2013, I became more confident and creative. I learned to take a breath and choose my responses.  I expanded and celebrated the impact I have as a leader, change agent and contributor to other’s lives. I was at peace with who I am and what I have accomplished; I was glad to be me.


2013 was a very good year for me.  Being me became easier.  The singing opened my creative and expressive self.  While challenged by the fear of being seen, the support of my teacher and friends helped me work through it.  My successes on the golf course, and my continued physical training have made me more confident, and alive.  I have impacted others in a positive way, and I had fun in the process.  I also learned to set more realistic goals for myself – 1 ½ miles in 12 minutes pushed me to my limit.  Hmm, maybe I will set that as a goal for 2014. Oh, I am glad to be me.

I earned my A.

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