Win Harper | Life and Leadership Coach

I got my “A” because I trusted myself this year.  I listened to my intuition and did the things that enhanced my life, and asked for what I wanted to have my needs met.

I learned a new language this year:  Nonviolent Communication, a language of life.  I am not yet fluent in it, and at the same time, I am identifying and expressing my feelings and connecting those feelings with my met or unmet needs.  Much like learning any foreign language, it required practice and patience on my part, and empathy for those who did not at first understand my inelegant expression and use of the words and sentences.  And like when you learn the language of a foreign country you are visiting, my efforts were appreciated by those I talked with. I also used my new language in my coaching, and helped others learn how to express themselves better and to have healthier relationships.

I am in the best physical shape I have been in years.  I started the year going to Zumba exercise classes three times a week at the local Y.M.C.A., and in January I had a personal trainer design a workout for me.  I am also began playing basketball again.

I continued to study coaching and leadership.  I re-read, “Irresistible Communications”, “Nonviolent Communications”, and “Leadership and Self-Deception.”  I read, “The What’s of Management”, “You are What You Say”, “Restore Yourself”, “Leading with Questions”, “Loving with Intention”, and “The Leadership Challenge.”  I also took a couple of tele-seminar classes, and listened to coaching skills classes podcasts.  I talked on the phone twice a month with Suzanne Damberg and Sandy Grove, The Coaching Roundtable, and that provided support, learning, and connection for the three of us.

In 2010 I re-committed myself to being the best coach I could be, and through a concerted marketing effort that included radio shows, articles, teaching, and advertising, I had the maximum number of clients I want – 10.  I coached individuals and groups in person, on the telephone, and via Skype.  I faithfully wrote my weekly blog. I taught workshops on Life Purpose, Fulfillment, and Leadership at several venues.  Elizabeth and I also taught together, and our “Future Gifts for the Present Moment” sessions were highly successful.  Both of us continue to contribute to the individuals we work with, and to the community as a whole.

Our home was completed in April and we have settled into the Canandaigua, New York community.  I volunteer at the Veterans Hospital and teach a coaching course at the Finger Lakes Community College.

This past year has provided me a better sense of who I am, what I do, and how my behavior impacts others.  My listening skills and empathy have allowed me to appreciate life more and to be more present.  I am my authentic self, doing what I love to do, and contributing to the well-being of others and the world.  I love this guy.

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I hope 2010 is the best year of your life; that you honor your values and live your life purpose.  That your life is fulfilled, and you are at peace with who you are and how you contribute.  To paraphrase a Home Depot slogan, “You can do it, I can help!”