Win Harper | Life and Leadership Coach

“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Paulo Coelho

The more I work with people the more I appreciate values clarification.  Mike is living a fulfilled life while still searching for work.  Why?  Because he is honoring his values and living his life purpose.

This past week he was in Ohio working with a friend who is starting a new small business.  As Mike described the events, his voice was alive and I felt his enthusiasm through the phone.  Here are his values:

Value 1 Independence
Value 2 Family
Value 3 Contribution/caring/service
Value 4 Challenges
Value 5 Integrity

Listen to the latest podcast of my coaching session with Mike, and see if you can identify the values he is honoring.  Also, his Life Purpose Statement is:  “I am the wet stone against which others sharpen themselves.”  Is that apparent in the session?  Finally, his Future Self’s name is “Shepherd.”  How does that relate to what he is doing now?

Ironically (Hmmm, maybe), while consulting and working with his friend, he got a call about another project consulting job.  One that pays!

Did you do the values clarification exercise last week?  How are you honoring your values?  What is your life purpose? 

For homework I challenged Mike to come up with an ideal job description for himself.  He is not to consider training, money, location, or any “limiting” thoughts.  And I want him to be as detailed as possible.  I use a similar exercise for relationships.  Then I call it the man-plan or woman-plan.  If you are looking for a relationship rather than your ideal job, then consider the following questions - What is the ideal person you want to be with?  What are their qualities?  What are their character traits?  What do I want in the ideal mate?  Write out a paragraph and post it on your mirror or some place where you can see it and read it everyday.  To me, it is like having a song in your head and within hours you hear it on the radio.  It is not that you manifested the song, but you were attuned to the sound and recognized it when you heard it.  The man-plan, woman-plan, or job description works the same way.  How many opportunities have you missed because you were not conscious of what you wanted?  Starting today, you can be aware of what you want and you can get it.  The Universe will conspire with you.