Win Harper | Life and Leadership Coach

We finally did it!  For years I have been telling Elizabeth that we travel with too much stuff.  This past Saturday, when we returned from Mexico we carried “everything including the kitchen sink.”  Well, to be accurate, we had a bathroom sink; the one pictured here.  Since we have spent most of our winters in Playa del Carmen, we wanted to have some flavor of Mexico in our new home.  Somehow our carrying the sink on the plane “required” us to purchase first class tickets, and that is one of the costs of “carrying excess baggage.”

I served 26 years in the Marine Corps and was a logistics officer for a Marine Artillery Regiment, so I know a lot about traveling and the need to travel light.  I also worked in the parking lot at the Omega Institute for Holistic studies.  Part of that job included delivering the participant’s luggage to their housing.  In that position you develop a real sensitivity to luggage; size, amount, and quality.  Many times, at the end of a long transition day, myself and the other staff members were exhausted. 

So far I have been talking about physical baggage, but what about our emotional baggage.  What is the cost of the excess we carry?

What are two or three things you believe that are limiting you from becoming who you want to be?  I often tell myself I don’t want to market my coaching because I could get TOO many clients.  What I am really saying is that I have difficulty with boundaries and saying “No”.  Sometimes I won’t speak up because, “What difference would it make; the other person doesn’t care or doesn’t want to grow.”  What I am really doing is not getting my need to be heard and understood met, and that usually leaves me frustrated and angry.

What are you doing, saying, or thinking that is limiting you?  What one belief or behavior, if you changed it today, would make the biggest difference in your life?